Therapy for shame & self-esteem in Toronto
Without knowing why you feel this way, you're blindsided by shame. It washes over you; you want to save face, disappear and hide. Withdrawing, you silence yourself and keep secrets.
When you're in the midst of shame It feels like everyone is looking at you. Your mouth gets dry, time slows down and your heart races.
Being a people pleaser, you have a hard time saying no to others when you'd rather not. You believe you're being helpful and kind but you're getting taken advantage of more and more and your resentment is building.
You thrive on compliments and praise to validate you because deep down you don’t believe in yourself. You crave the positive attention and chase after it.
Your anxiety and depression make you hear that inner voice telling you that you’re stuck and that you’re a loser. To distance yourself from those feelings you've been getting angry at others and shifting the spotlight away for yourself or have developed addictive behaviours to cope.
Criticism from others makes you get defensive and lash out. It’s painful to believe that you are not good enough or smart or funny or creative enough.
The list is endless when you swim in shame. It chews away at any self-confidence you may have and destroys your desire to move ahead.
How I work with shame & self-esteem
I also encourage mindful practices of non-judgement and a process of stepping back to simply observe your thoughts and feelings. This reduces the self-judgement that goes hand-in-hand with perfectionism, shame and poor self-esteem.
It's normal to try to hide from these difficult emotions but processing them in meaningful ways, either verbally or through art making, can help you reevaluate and redefine how you see yourself. You'll learn to see that you deserve compassion.
We bring shame out of its hiding place and air it out.
Shame is the intense feeling that you ARE bad or wrong. It can help keep us in line with our vales but can become a huge obstacle in our lives if left untreated. You feel like you’re never good enough, totally worthless and you hear that voice in your head telling you that you suck.
Guilt on the other hand is what we feel when you’ve DONE something bad and it can be a deserved but helpful and useful feeling.
Treating shame & self-esteem in Toronto
Together we’ll discover who you were always meant to be by finding your authentic voice and your inherent value.
I will hear you and support you in dissolving the shame you’ve been carrying around with you. You DO have value and worth.
Please schedule a free consult. This way we can get to know each other a little bit and make sure we are a good fit for each other. I look forward to hearing from you.